How to Prep For Parent-Teacher Conferences

Come with an open mind and be ready to listen. 

Yes you know your child best, however, your child’s teacher is an expert in this age and grade level. They have likely taught dozens (or more) kids at this particular age level and know what is developmentally appropriate for your child to master at this point in their academic journey. Let your child’s teacher share with you before you ask a million questions, you can always schedule a follow up meeting or phone call and it is important to take the time to listen to what the teacher has prepared to share.

Come prepared. 

Bring a notepad and a pen. Talk to your partner beforehand so you are on the same page before going into the conference. If the teacher has provided a report card sample, review it beforehand. Write down your questions (I promise you will forget in the moment unless they are written down). 

Good questions to ask:

-What can I do at home to support my child academically?

-Who does my child connect with socially in the class? (follow up and schedule play dates with those kids!)

-Can you suggest books that are appropriate for my child’s reading level?

-Are there opportunities for me to volunteer in the classroom?

Come ready to collaborate.

It’s so important to be on the same team as your child’s teacher. Sometimes you aren’t going to love what they have to say. Try not to be defensive or in denial. Teachers want what is best for each of their students and they sometimes have to communicate difficult information. The best thing you can do is partner with their teacher to provide your child with the most support so they can be successful. The more you advocate for your child early on, the better. And if you’re not so sure about what the teacher is saying, get a second opinion, but don’t just ignore it.

Come on time (or early).

This should be a no-brainer, but it happens more than you think! Generally conferences are 15-20 minutes and stacked back to back. This is precious time with the teacher, don’t waste it by being late!

Last but not least…

Don’t ask your child’s teacher to compare them with other kids in the class. Every child is different. Every child has different strengths. One year they may do great, another year they may struggle. It is a slippery slope to start comparing them and puts the teacher in an awkward position. Instead ask, is my child where they should be at for their grade level? 

Questions? Want to chat more? Email me! liz@myprimparyprep.com